Families in the Social
Panorama.
Lucas Derks
1997
People represent people in their minds, and in the submodalities of these
representations, they encode the quality of their relationships. By the same
means they picture their family members, and by doing so they also define their
family ties.
In this article I will argue, that these family representations dictate
what type of interaction patterns will occur in between family members. Or
briefly: Family representations dominate family interaction patterns.
Beside that I will explore how early representations of ones next of kin
shape ones personality. And how 'social traits' can be altered by way of
re-arranging the submodalities of the representation of ones family of origin.
Family
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My modelling
research (Derks 1995) has shown that most people tend to represent family
members, and all other people in general, as if they were solid, standing,
objects in space. And the way these objects are located in space --in relation
to the self-- is the main factor defining a relationship. Location appears
to be the most common critical submodality in social life.
This
research resulted in The Social
Panorama Model: An NLP-tool to explore and change the structure of
social experience. A tool which applications reach far beyond the subject
matter of this article.
Someone's
social panorama is defined as the summ of this persons social representations.
In most people the general shape of this comes closest to a panoramic
landscape. The (kineasthetic) self is located in its centre; it is from where
is looked, felt and listened around. This central view point is surrounded by
the representations of all individuals and groups that are relevant to a
person. In theory, social representations can be placed anywhere in the
socio-sphere that surrounds a person. But most individuals attach circumscribed
meaning to left, right, up, down, front or back. As if their 'social opperating
system' unconsciously organizes classes of social representations. The distance
to these social representations also varies, as does their size, color and
brightness. And every location means something different to a person.
As already
stated above: The essence of the social panorama model can be expressed in one
short slogan: Relation equals location.
To get
access to reliable social panorama information, the NLP-er may apply the following
procedure.
(1) Have the
persons close their eyes.
(2) Have
them think of: 'All people in the world as they exist around you'.
(3) Ask them
to focus on a certain social context (family, work, kindergarten).
(4) Ask
them, 'where --left, right, up, down-- do you see or experience...(name of
relevant group or individual).
(5) Have
them point this location out, before they open their eyes again.
Why this
procedure?
Social
representations may differ in their level of abstraction and consciousness.
Seeing a mental picture of your brother at the moment he said 'yes' and married
his ex-wife, is quite concrete. It is like a mental photograph. On the other
hand you may have a general sense of 'my brother', that is not so mutch bound
to place and time: This can be said to be a broad generalization about who he
is. And this type of generalization may function very mutch outside of your
awareness.
The above
procedure helps most people to get access to a usefull level of abstraction and
to bring this type of knowledge to consciousness. Problems with accessing
social panorama locations, may have to do with the clients misunderstanding the
questions, resulting for instance in them pointing at 'geographic' locations.
So they point to the east, because the named relative lives in a city east of
their home town. Turning the person 180 degrees, and asking them again to point
out the location of this relative, will reveal wether or not the question was
clear to them.
In difficult
cases, it may help, to first have a person point out the location of their
spouse, by just asking:'Where do you experience, sense, (intuitively,
subjectively) your partner; left, right or in front of you? As soon as this leads
to the access of the right level of abstraction, finding other locations will
be simple.
By using
this procedure it has proven to be relatively easy for people to visualize
individuals, groups, teams and the constellation of their family at differing
ages.
There seems to exist no level beyond the Social Panorama
As soon as
the social panorama location of a group or individual is found, the person
immediately knows what this means in terms of relationship: He will experience
some of the social emotions connected to this group or individual. On the other
hand, by having a person attend to the social emotion, we can be shure they
will visualize the group or person in the appropriate location. 'Feel, what you
feel for John... where do you spot his image?'
Peoples
social panorama must be regarded as their primary or basic way of representing
social relations. In other words, people do represent relations in space --but
don't possessalternative and more powerful ways of representing them-- and they
live and act primary on the base of these spacial representations. So whatever
a person does, rationalizes, tells or otherwise expresses about a
relationships, this does not affect him as much as a change in the location
where he sees, hears and feels significant others.
Representation dominates interaction
By just
experimenting with this I came to believe that representation dominates
interaction. In other words, in the submodalities I have represented my brother
I have encoded my relationship to him. The interaction patterns between me and
my brother are the result of the ways in which we both have pictured each other
in our minds. Change (one of) these images, and the interaction patterns will
change.
In the
social panorama we see different classes of social representations, all having
their 'person-like' character in common. The social panorama can be said to be
a sphere of personifications. In this sphere we may find:
1)
Representations of others (living people).
2)
Representations of groups.
3)
Representations of parts we consider to belong to our selves (self images and
projections of personality parts)
4)
Representations of social entities that are not live humans, but personified
objects, abstractions, spirits or gods and the like.
Families and locations
When we
assume 'relation equals location' and 'the social panorama is the primary or
basic social representation' and 'representation dominates interaction' we are
ready to look at families again. When we assume that any family system consists
of relations, these must primarily be laid out in the imaginary space around a
person.
As soon as one
starts to listen for the predicates of location in spontaneous talk about
family ties, it is all very convincing: nearness, distance, besideness and
closeness, fill the air.
"My dad
was out of reach for me." "My ex wife stood in between us."
"My sister has always been the closest person to me."
"My
parents stood side by side and were backing me up."
The
accompanying nonverbal behavior, like gazing and gesturing at spots, in
combination with kinaesthetic predicates like warmth, coolness, looseness and tightness
all prove the validity of this view.
Other
evidence, supporting the crucial role of the submodality location, comes from
interventions as used in several schools of family therapy (Satir, Pesso,
Moreno, Menuchin).
But non of
these methods are based on the assumption that location is the primary way of
representing relations.
Modelling Bert Hellinger
A therapist
that implicitly does use the above assumption, is the German Bert Hellinger.
Moving around family members in the clients social panorama is his main type of
intervention.
He not only
applies this method on actual family problems, but also with all other kinds of
psychological problems and even serious health crisis.
In
Anchorpoint of august 1997, Tim Hallbom and Kris Johnson wrote about the work
of Hellinger and in march 1997 I wrote an article in NLP-world that dealth with
some patterns in his work. Although Hellingers methods and ideas are in
conflict with several of the NLP presuppositions, this does not automatically
imply that we can't learn something important from modeling him. Modelling him
is a endaviour that already provided NLP with some usefull techniques. And in
all of this the Social Panorama has proven to be the vital modeling tool.
Hellinger at work
Hellinger
often starts a session collecting information about the composition of the
family, and the incidents, due to fate, concerning early death, illness,
divorce, marriage and breaking up. These 'historic facts' are only briefly
discussed, just enough to clarify their passible impact on the family system.
Next,
Hellinger's clients have to materialize the social panoramas of their families,
by putting 'representatives' (therapy group members, that are used as
substitutes for the original family members) on the right locations in the
room.
To be able
to put the stand-ins in place in the right way, the client must be in a
'serious' concentrated state. Hellinger explains to a client:
"Now
you take the chosen persons one by one with both hands, and put them on their
spot in relation to the others, just like you experience them right now. When
you see that it is alright, you stop. Do it fully in accord with your feelings,
and in the way you sense it at this very moment. Than again, test wether it is
done right, and sit down."(p.387)
Hellinger's
clients also choose a stand-in for themselves, so they are able to sit down and
look at the standing system (Familienaufstellung) from a third perceptual
position.
Hellingers
major source of information comes from the representatives. As soon as the
family constellation is ready, Hellinger starts to investigate what the
stand-ins feel. Routinely he checks the emotions of all the stand-ins one after
the other. This is a very remarkable operation. Because by relying on the
information given by the representatives, Hellinger implicitly assumes that the
stand-ins feelings are a genuine source of information. In fact Hellinger acts
as if he is dealing with the 'real' family members; he seems to neglect the
fact that they are just a bunch of surrogates.
While the client
is observing from a third perceptual position, all the work is done by the
therapist (Hellinger), who directs and changes the positions of the stand-ins.
Establishing
a family constellation with representatives provides one with 'direct knowledge',
as Hellinger calls it. I (LD) do take this as synonymous for assuming location
being the primary way of representing relations. When asked for a theoretical
explanation of these phenomena Hellinger states:
"I do
explain nothing to myself. I see what is up, that it works this way. And one
can check out, that those who are stand-ins in a family layout, are really able
to sense what is going on in this family, and that is enough for my work."
(p.419)
Hellinger
strongly emphasize the intuitive nature of his work. In response to reading my
modelling, he wrote me:
"There
is mutch truth to it. But if you imagine that a therapist knows all these
passibilities, will he be able to work more efficiently when he sets up a
family? I think he will not. Something else is nessasary." (letter, 17.7
97).
Next he
agues that 'the soul' is the level that helps the therapist to find
'solutions'.
For me as an
NLP-er this comment of Hellinger typifies the relationship between 'expert' and
'modeller'. It is the task of the modeller to analyse the work of the expert to
a degree that makes his skills transferable to others: Didn't Milton Erickson
give similar comments on Bandler and Grinders work? The expert works
intuitively; due to his long experience he lost the ability to reflect on the
mental programms that make up his capabilities.
Hellinger
says to be familiar with NLP concepts, especially he studied the use of
metaphors with David Gorden. But in all his work he never mentions Bandler's
submodalities nor Dilts' psycho-geographics.
Trusting the representatives
About the
representatives Hellinger remarks:
"Many,
when they stand there, read from the overall picture, what they are supposed to
feel. ... But it is better, when a stand-in concentrates and only senses what
is going on inside himself in the moment, independent from what is happening
around him." (p. 399)
With the aid
of this information, Hellinger starts to develop an improved family
constellation. While he experiments with alternative positions for family
members, he tests the result by repeatedly checking the emotions of the
stand-ins. This trust in the representatives emotional reactions raises some
fundamental questions for the NLP-er. Are the emotions of 'strangers' who know
near to nothing about the 'real' family, a truly relyable source of information
in psychotherapy?
Are social submodalities universal?
Bandler
suggests to treat submodalities as idiosyncratic: People differ in what certain
submodalities mean to them. Differences in taste and preference as we do
encounter them in art witness the diversity in submodality codes.
Hellinger's
practice contradicts ideosyncracy as far as submodalities in the social domain
are concerned. Because relying on the feelings of stand-ins presupposes that
all humans apply similar submodality coding for social relations.
Hellinger
cannot respond to this type theoretical issues mainly becouse the notion of
submodalities is nonexistant in his vocabulary. He acts as if social
submodalities are a universal language of certain locations meaning certain
relations.
My own pilot
studies (Derks, 1995, 1997) show that there is a strong overlap between
individuals in the meaning they give to some social panoramic locations. But
wether this extends to the level that justifies relying on stand-ins needs
further examination. If people do agree that much, as Hellinger's work implies,
stand-ins feelings are as good as anyone's feelings to test the quality of a
position in a family constellation.
In one
experinment I placed nine different idividuals on the same 'client location' in
a simple family constellation. It was very clear that:
1) The
client and all eight his stand-ins experienced very strong negative emotions,
--as measured on the spot with a questionaire based on the structure of
emotions (Camaron Bandler 1986). On a seven point scale for 'intensity' the
mean was 6.2.
2) But the
character of these emotions varied widely within the negative range (craving,
fear, presure, limitation and anger, rage, feeling threatened, feeling nailed
down, restles and discomfort.) Also the intentions behind these emotions showed
a wide range (I want: motherly love, harmony, don't want to be in the middle of
not communicating people, more freedom and don't want them to look after me,
closeness, see my dad, freedom, to look backwards).
The fact
that Hellinger is a successful therapist, does not prove that social
submodalities do have an universal meaning. But it shows that the amount of
overlap is such, that it often works. Often enough for Hellinger to proceed
this way. His success primarily demonstrates the strong impact changes in
family member locations do have on a person, no matter wether these fit exactly
to the needs of the client or not. What I mean is, that even when a therapist
applies 'random' shifts in location, these may start off an important search
proces in a client.
But
Hellinger interventions are not random, but follow a series of fundamental
composition rules, that I will discuss a little later.
An other
remarkable aspect of his approach is the passive role of the client. As soon as
the client has put the last stand-in on his location he is asked to sit down
and observe; the client has near to no saying in whose position will be changed
and in what way. Although Hellinger let himself be guided by visual calibration
of nonverbal behavior of both clients and stand-ins, he states that deciding
about who must be moved to where, is a task exclusively reserved for the
therapist.
Difficult to
all NLP-ers is Hellingers statement: 'What works is the truth.' Becouse it is
evident that he is the one who decides about what this 'truth' is: His map is
the territory. Although he suggest that it is 'the soul of the system' that
reveals this truth to him.
The solution
Hellinger's
therapeutic goal is to change the clients' mental representation of his family
from disorder to order. He comments to a case with a client named Bruno:
"He had
an internal image of the relationships in his family. The pitiful attempts by
which the family tried to solve their problems lead to the death of his sister
and his mother. Bruno had brought his internal image to the outside, and we
could look at it. When it was standing there outside of him, it could be
changed to reach at a better solution. To ensure this solution will work for
Bruno, it does not take any change in his (real) family. His father does not
have to change; he even does not have to know anything about this at all. And
the dead will stay dead. Bruno on the other hand will be able to take this new
image up in his soul, loving, and than it will work out fine for him."
(p.407)
The aim of
this process is to reach at a family constellation in which everyone is
standing at the right spot. This is what Hellinger calls 'the solution.' After
having been a bystander for a while, the client is presented with this
solution, and has to accept it. By changing places with his own personal
stand-in, the client is able to explore the new family layout from within. This
first perceptual position 'reimprinting' is often the final step of the
therapeutic procedure.
Family parts
The rules to
what the 'better solution' has to obey, is very much in accordance with the
principles of the social panorama and NLP at large. Hellinger states that every
family member of a person, belongs to this person. In other words, people
internalize all their family members; and these internalizations become
personality parts. Success in therapy comes when the relationship to all
internalized family members (parts) is emotional positive.
The family of origin
Working with
someone's childhood family system, may have a tremendous influence. This is
logically caused by the fact, that the family of origin is the very foundations
of personality. These early social connections are build on in later life. And
also, the fundamental experience of belonging to a family is the prototype for
belonging to other social systems in adulthood. The parts making up the
childhood family system, are often largely identified with. So, although your
father is an 'other', you have copied much of his mental software in the files
you consider 'yourself'.
There is no
need to explain more about the important role of parents and next of kin, were
so many psychologist have done so for ages.
Problems
that take the shape of social personality traits: Core patterns, that a person
repeats in many different contexts, seem to be rooted in the structure of the
family of origin. Agression, hesitation, withdrawal, submissiveness etc. can be
treated succesfully by changing the family of origin.
Systemic entanglement
Family members
transfer their family images to other family members. A baby is born within the
existing family system. His parents and older brothers and sisters do already
use social representations. And these older family members act on the base of
these representations, and by that dictate part of the relationship with the
new comer. In this way older family members strongly influence the social
panorama of the young members. That is why Hellinger regards birth order as
something very significant. Older family members mold the family panorama of a
younger member, and by doing that they may transfer all kinds of troublesome
relationships, that Hellinger calls 'systemic entanglement'.
Parents may
locate a new child on the same spot in their social panorama where a deceased
child stood (and often give it the same name). This may lead to identification
with deceased siplings. Or at other times, long gone loved ones of the parents
are sharing locations with a child. The child will partly sense to be an adult
lover. Or parents may omit a stillborn baby in their conversation with a
younger child, but still 'show' the location of the deceased baby. As a result
the younger child feels something is missing but does not know what it is.
Especially when a male baby replaces a female (or visa versa) this may cause
problems with gender identity, in Hellinger's view. On this level of systemic
entanglements Hellinger is at his best and at his most dangerous in the sense
of providing clients with negative suggestions.
By modeling Hellinger
it becomes apperrant that people can suffer from death relatives they never
met, or that people may seek death to rejoin deceased relatives.
A nice
example in my own practice was a client who complained, he couldn't reach his
goals. It was easy to discouver that the nearest personification in his social
panorama was his uncle who had committed suicide. This personification was
located at only 15 cm in front of his head; exacly blurring the direction of
his future on his personal timeline. Moving the uncle opened up a bright vision
of the future.
The Frivolous assumption
However,
changes in the current family system, that involve a change in attitude, say
from hatred to love, will also have a profound impact on the client. Implicitly
Hellinger also makes use of what in social panorama is called: 'The frivolous
assumption.' This says, that when we single sidedly change our mental
representation of a person, and by doing this change our attitude to him, this
will affect the (real) persons' attitude to us. NLP does not explain this
effect from supernatural influence, but as a result of unconscious non verbal
interaction. When I changed my attitude towards a person, he will unconsciously
start to respond to my changed nonverbal cues, and by that change his attitude
as well.
Designing changes
If we assume
the social panorama to be the primary set of social representations, this
implies it must also be the place to make significant and permanent changes.
Shifting a social unit from one site to the other may be very easy for a
client; as easy as imagining to move a piece of furniture in his home.Although
moving units can be easy; to the therapist, the most critical question to
answer is: What must be moved to where?
How does
Hellinger solve this?
Hellinger
has seen great numbers of family constellations, and does firmly generalize
from this experience. But he does not provide us with a set of composition
rules for improving family layouts. But in his book "Ordnungen der
Liebe" (The laws of love) he reveals some of his rules. My analysis is
partly based on this book and on seeing him and his colleques work in reality
and on video.
The type of
moves that Hellinger has family members make in order to improve a family
constellation are of every conceivable kind: coming closer, moving away,
exchanging places with an other family member, turning around, etc. However,
the vertical dimension, that has proven to be very significant in the social
panorama research, is not used by Hellinger. So he never seem to put a person
above ore below an other, although we may regard his 'bending down low' ritual
in this respect.
Ritual interaction
The
ritualistic side of Hellingers works will be dealth with some more in our next
article. Part of these rituals consist of sentences that the therapist
vocalizes and that must be repeated by the client. Hellinger seems to highly
value these 'incantations'. For instance he orders clients to repeat: 'I give
you the honour', 'Dear mother I do stay here a little longer', 'I will give you
a place in my heart'.
Family Panorama's the NLP way
To match the common NLP style we need to
depart from Hellinger's method in five major ways:
1) The
Family Panorama is made visual without the use of stand-ins, but only in the
clients imagination; aided by sketches, chairs, shoes, pillows or whatever is
useful.
2) The
transfer of resources, from the client to family member-parts, is applied as
the major way to change relations and thus locations. Transferring resources
will often replace the actual shifting of locations, since locations will shift automatically after a
resource has arrived at the personality part that represents a family
member lacking that resource.
This is
something known from reimprinting and reparenting. The changes in locations
comming from transferring resources, do however result from unconscious
creative activety at the side of the client. They prove the capability of
peoples 'unconscious social operating system' to make effective and ecological
shifts without any instruction from the therapist.
3) The
client himself is the one that by shifting to the seccond perceptual position
checks ecology for all family members; so stand-ins have no part in this.
4) A list of
Family Panorama Patterns is used, as a guide to the therapist for designing
changes. (Some of these Fam. Pan. Pats. are presented at the end of this
article). Usefull shifts in locations can be suggested in the regular NLP way
of working with submodalities.
5) Changes
in the childhood family layout are worked with and consolidated in a way
similar to that used for beliefs. The client will be taken over the time line
with his new childhood family panorama. By doing this, the past is connected to
present and future.
Family
Panorama Patterns
After one has gathered information about a
family panorama, the question arises: What is fit for change? Next we will
present a number of family panorama phenomena that may guide a therapist in
designing changes. (See illusrations)
a)Hostile attitudes
Family
members that are hated, rejected, not taken serious, neglected, disrespected
and the like, need be changed into personifications that the client feel
positive or at least neutral about. Do this by providing these elements with
the resources they lack, and/or move them to better locations.
b)Vacancies
Deletions in
your client's family systems come with omitted kinsfolk. Family members can be
said to be 'nowhere'. Family members facing empty locations may indicate
children given away for adoption, aborted children, relatives put in prison or
war criminals that are expelled. Examen who is missing, and put him or her back
in place. Some omitted family members need to acquire extra resources before
they can be accepted as part of the family again.
c)Bilocations
If your
client has one and the same family member represented at two or more
locations, this signifies his conflicting attitude towards this person. We may
say that every personification is projected by a part of the client. When there
are two representations of the same 'real' person, there are two parts making
up this distorted image of social reality. These two parts of the client must
be integrated. When clients complain about 'restlessness' after a change in
their social panorama, one should first check if new double representations
have occurred. These should be cleared.
Family
constellation therapist cannot work with bilocation; since the client has only
one stand-in per family member. Hesitation in finding the right spot may
signify bilocations.
d)Shared locations
When in your
clients family panorama several 'real people' are represented on the same
location this signals problematic over generalization. Pay special attention
when the locations of living family members are shared with deceased ones, this
signals 'post mortem' identifications. For instance, a child can replace a
death child in this way. When many family members are on the same location this
often shows in mistakes with names. Make a difference, where distinction is
needed. Send the death to the spiritual realm, and separate them from the
living.
In family
constellation therapy one cannot put two stand-ins on the same spot. Also,
shared locations not always reach the ground and are for that reason difficult
to put in place for the client. An other problem comes with clients who have
their social panorama inside their body. It is diffecult to represent family
members that you feel inside yourself on the floor.
e)Immature positions
When your
adult client represents his family members still in the same location as he did
in childhood, this indicates problems with maturity. Breaking loose from ones
parents comes with creating some distance to them.
To track
down immature position one needs to compare the family of origin with the
current family panorama.
f)Border crossings personifications (self, other, spirit)
Clients may
represent personifications that are difficult to classify; are they self?,
other? or spirit? Help your clients to distinguish between self and other, the
life and the death.
Border
crossing personifications are often difficult to represent with the aid of
stand-ins.
g)A to weak or divided self
Clients can
have invisible, small, vague or very far away self images. If this causes
identity problems the self images need to be made closer and taller. Multiple
self images within one and the same context (self image bilocations) signal
inner conflicts that must be resolved. This is a parameter non-existent in
family constellation therapy.
h)Leaving members
A family
member in your clients family panorama, that faces away from the others may
indicate that he or she does not want to belong to the system anymore. Check
with the client wether this member can be set free. In family constellations
leaving members will be very clearly indicated by distance and orientation.
i)Spouse too far away
Spouses are
regularly found within arms length or less. If your client's spouse is out of
immediate reach and the problems deal with this relation, find the reason for
the distance. Partners that are quite near, tall and straight in front most
often need to be placed down to the side. Spouses that are far away signal the
relation has ended. Bilocated spouses may cause lots of problems when found in
a clients family panorama.
j)Isolation
If your
client represents family members far away from the others, than these may need
to get closer. In general, family members should be within neutral distance;
one must be able to feel their presence.
k)Family 'disorder'
A common
pattern Hellinger uses in family panoramas is: The man stands at the right hand
side of the woman, and the children follow each other in birth order, newcomers
at the end of a clockwise semi circle.
When mature
children leave their parents home, they turn their backs to them, looking into
open space. Putting a family system in this order does most often improve it.
l)To much verticality, authority problems
When the
clients sees all his family members located above him this needs adjustment.
Also when most people are below, this calls for some intervention. Family
members that one have to look up to may be to influential, and need to be
shifted downwards.
m)Fatal examples
Near
relatives who died early may function as unconscious models for a client to
also seek early death. Although completely unaware of this, a person did also
internalize the dead relatives mental software that lead to the fatal outcome.
Hellinger noticed this tendency to 'follow after' deceased near relatives. In
NLP it seems logical to provide the 'internalized dead relative' with the
resources that could have had prevented him or her from dying. The client will
transfer these resources somewhere in an early phase in the dead relatives life
on the time line.
Ecology checking and future pacing
Hellinger states, that he is against
discussing the therapeutic effect with the client. As soon as the client has
experienced the new family image from first perceptual position, for Hellinger
the job is done. He makes this clear by saying: That was it (Das war es).
Testing and discussing takes away the power of the intervention, he explains.
So he cuts off mutch emmediate feedback.
This is in conflict with the NLP habit to test
ones results. NLP-ers believe the client to be able to complete most creative
thinking and reconsiddering, within the time limits of the therapy session.
NLP-ers send a client home, ideally speaking, when everything is fixed.
Hellingers clients on the other hand, have to do mutch homework to complete the
therapy. Hellinger says he relies on his clients 'souls' for that to happen.
I recommend to do ecology checks with the
client for every shifted family member by having the client step in seccond
perceptual position with this family member.
My personal experience so far shows that it
may occupy a person for a week or two, to finnish the integration, if he is only
confronted with the new constellation in the Hellinger way. But even if we do
check ecology and future pace, things may be a little uncertain. This simply
means that, we sometimes need to wait a couple of days before we are able to
assess the result.
For instance in one case, two weeks later, the
images of parents that were moved from up front to the back did return to the
front. Checking the positive intention of their return revealed the reason
immediately: Mother once had a stroke, she had to be watched to prevent a
repetition. Knowing this, enabeled the client to resolve this easely. She
placed mother at the back again, but kept monitorring her health by way of an
imaginary side mirror.
But at other times it has proven to be
possible to complete the work within a two to three hour session. Checking
ecology by having the client go seccond position with all family members
repetedly, comes near to being waterproof. So Hellingers insigts and NLP
precision can be combined, when one takes time for it.
Conclusion
The most effective way of shifting locations
in family panoramas is arrived at by transferring resources way back in the
history of the system. A technique sometimes called 'reparenting'. After having
send to one of the parents whatever resources they need, they most often
automatically move to more favorable locations. And not only the parents move,
in most cases every family member moves in directions that are in agreement
with many of Hellingers solutions. It is very promissing that these movements
seem to follow the natural flow of the clients unconscious mind. And the shifts
that result from resources being transferred, seem to be of high a standart of
ecology.
I close by
saying, that Bert Hellinger has a unique style of working, it seems to be
effective in many cases but it violates the basic assumptions of NLP. That is
why, in a next article called 'Systemic Voodoo', we will explore how it may fit
better within NLP.
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literature:
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Peoplemaking. Palo Alto: Science and behavior Books, 1972
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HellingerCarl Auer Verlag, Heidelberg, 1995.
Bandler, R. Using
Your Brain for a Change, Moab, Utah:Real people Press, 1985.
Bandler, R.,
Grinder J. & Satir, V. Changing With Families
Science and
Behavior Books, Inc. Palo Alto, Ca. 1976.
Derks, L.Exploring
the Social Panorama, in NLP World,Vol. 2, No.3 28-42, november 1995.
Derks, L.
& Hollander, J. Exploring the Spiritual Panorama, in NLP World, Vol.
3, No 2, July 1996.
Derks, L. Family
Systems in the Social Panorama, in NLP World Vol. 4, No. 1, 21-38, March
1997.
Derks, L. Das
Familiensystem im "Social Panorama", in MultiMind, august 1997.
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Derks, L. The
Social Significance of Inner Space. Manuscript of 267 pages, Copies: IEP,
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& Bandler, R. The Structure of Magic, Vol II
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Behavior Books, Inc. Palo Alto, Ca. 1976.
Lucas A.C.
Derks is social psychologist and a trainer at the Institute of Eclectic
Psychology in Nijmegen, The Netherlands. He wrote and co-authored several books
and numerous articles mostly dealing with NLP and related psychological topics.
His newest book on the Social Panorama is in publication.
Thanks only
to Walter Oetsch from Linz in Austria, the social panorama was linked to Hellingers
work. Walters suggestions were taken into account and will add to further
improvements of these applications into the future.